After the Noor Mukaddam-Zahir Jaffer episode, Islamabad has seen yet another high-profile murder of a woman in a case of domestic violence, with very similar parallels:
1. The man came from a very powerful, affluent, influential and rich family
2. Had a case history of abusive and erratic behavior
3. Was into drug and alcohol abuse
4. Was trusted by the victim
It’s sad to see people blessed with everything and yet resort to such abuse and violence. This clears the fact that for someone to be abusive he doesn’t necessarily need to belong to a labor class or be frustrated by the economic conditions however rightly said that the menace of drugs and alcohol is found in both classes.
I believe If someone is unable to take charge of their life and is into drugs… It’s clearly a red flag…A humanitarian
The danger sign for me is drug abuse. Both men were educated, intelligent, and well-traveled. They would probably have carried a great conversation otherwise on many worldly matters. However, the rampant drug abuse, especially in all classes of our society is producing psychopaths capable of the worst crimes. We have a real social problem. Pakistani law will take its slow and uneasy way, and we may eventually see the murderer being hanged (perhaps!), but for the ladies out there, the warning signs are now clear.
Please don’t ignore physical or psychological abuse
I would like to add that even in their ‘drug-induced rage’, they know where to draw the line as far as their mothers, sisters, and other family members are concerned. The victims are always wives and girlfriends. Sometimes and sometimes not. There were cases recently of men attacking their mothers and sisters (like the two brothers in Peshawar) which only came to the limelight because someone recorded it. This kind of mindset just looks at women as inferior beings.
I speak from personal experience I got addicted to abuse and went through solitude therapy through traveling, living alone made me stronger. On the other hand I am thankful to my abuser for making me strong enough and the woman I am today I wouldn’t have been. Life experiences taught me to stand up for myself and be vocal. I make my own choices and I’m the decision maker of my life, this needs to be understood by all. Life is beautiful!Not to be named
Very sad and pathetic to learn about these murders. What boggles one’s mind is why the hell would educated ladies tolerate such behaviors even so that there is abundant awareness available at least for the educated class. Moreover, I was discussing with someone how these educated women with so much exposure fall for such men. The first moment it happens, get the hell out. Doesn’t matter if it’s a marriage or a relationship. Get out. Doesn’t matter how many years you’ve been in it or how many times he’s apologized.
