Success to me isn’t being popular in a boisterous company which internally makes one uncomfortable because the value systems might not be consistent. It’s so important to understand that whether it’s a marital relationship or just friends, till one is completely happy, it’s better to be happy with one’s own hobbies, activities, and spirituality.
Marriage is beautiful but unfortunately I lost trust in marriage- it has no meaning to me anymore. To me now having survived an abusive marriage; love and respect are the needs in a healthy relationship. Forgiveness and gratitude give you the patience to be alone and enjoy your own company. I indulge in adventures all on my own. Very comfortably I can go for fine dining on my own. I seek relationship for companionship. Alhamdullillah I am financially independent, I seek relationship in which I feel emotionally safe and protected. In short, from my experience, emotional and physical safety are far more important than financial dependence on man.
Not to be named
To be comfortable in one’s own company is not something that can be taught. This programming starts at a very young age. I can be wrong. I feel it comes when you are able to follow your heart, regulate your own emotions and accept yourself and forgive yourself for letting someone abuse you. Indeed that’s a harsh reality but through moral support from family, this can be made possible!
Economic dependence is another reason women can’t get out
Women and children are the easiest targets and as the economic and social pressures are growing, they are the most vulnerable. I guess it’s a global phenomenon. Bad times.
A casual read-through of last week’s papers reveals the following
1. Man burns wife
2. Woman shot dead for honor killing
3. Daughter was killed for crying too loudly.
We are faced with a broader malaise. Not one that can be easily explained away by attributing it to the judgment of women alone. This has become a social problem and isn’t by any means an isolated incident.
